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Post by HURLOCK on Oct 23, 2007 11:56:12 GMT -1
Why is it always about shagging? I need more than a roll in the hay. Well it's not just about that, but it's 60/70% of a relationship - because it's about being compatible. Now I couldn't just sleep with someone and then not be able to converse with them. I'm past that stage The meeting of minds
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Post by jh1980 on Oct 23, 2007 11:57:11 GMT -1
Why is it always about shagging? I need more than a roll in the hay. I'm sure you do darling, but you can't expect us to be serious on a thread like this. Who knows, maybe someone from on here could cherish you... but were I a betting man, I'd imagine the next lucky fella lives a bit closer to Sheffield than the likes of Me, Hurls and Neko!
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Post by Mrs H on Oct 23, 2007 11:57:59 GMT -1
Why is it always about shagging? I need more than a roll in the hay. Well it's not just about that, but it's 60/70% of a relationship - because it's about being compatible. Now I couldn't just sleep with someone and then not be able to converse with them. I'm past that stage The meeting of minds Seriously 60-70% I think this is where men and women differ!
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Post by jh1980 on Oct 23, 2007 12:00:05 GMT -1
Seriously 60-70% I think this is where men and women differ! I don't think in terms of figures like that. It's far too easy to generalise
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Post by HURLOCK on Oct 23, 2007 12:01:07 GMT -1
Seriously 60-70% I think this is where men and women differ! Well maybe I was bigging myself up, 50% However myself and Monika agree on this. She infact said she wouldn't have stayed with me if the first time had been crap for her! Big daddy love did his stuff ;D
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Post by jh1980 on Oct 23, 2007 12:03:38 GMT -1
Well maybe I was bigging myself up, 50% However myself and Monika agree on this. She infact said she wouldn't have stayed with me if the first time had been crap for her! Big daddy love did his stuff ;D Hmmm... see there's far too much pressure for it to be perfect straight away isn't there? In my experience the first time WITH ANYONE is the worst time - which makes it all the more regrettable if there isn't a second time. Meh
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Post by unkownperson on Oct 23, 2007 12:06:21 GMT -1
Well maybe I was bigging myself up, 50% However myself and Monika agree on this. She infact said she wouldn't have stayed with me if the first time had been crap for her! Big daddy love did his stuff ;D Hmmm... see there's far too much pressure for it to be perfect straight away isn't there? In my experience the first time WITH ANYONE is the worst time - which makes it all the more regrettable if there isn't a second time. Meh Very true and agreed bud, Now thats a story of mine and shins 1st time together.. Im not putting it on here as it might go on Rbno and she would kill me for it...
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Post by HURLOCK on Oct 23, 2007 12:06:23 GMT -1
Hmmm... see there's far too much pressure for it to be perfect straight away isn't there? In my experience the first time WITH ANYONE is the worst time - which makes it all the more regrettable if there isn't a second time. Meh Jules it has to be good, it set the benchmark. I've not gone back for seconds on the strength of that. Bad sex is awful.
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Post by Mrs H on Oct 23, 2007 12:12:47 GMT -1
Hmmm... see there's far too much pressure for it to be perfect straight away isn't there? In my experience the first time WITH ANYONE is the worst time - which makes it all the more regrettable if there isn't a second time. Meh Jules it has to be good, it set the benchmark. I've not gone back for seconds on the strength of that. Bad sex is awful. Sex can't be amazing the first time you do it because you don't and they don't know what the other likes. That's why sex is better in a relationship. If you just had one night stands all the time you're just getting average pleasure!
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Post by HURLOCK on Oct 23, 2007 12:16:36 GMT -1
Sex can't be amazing the first time you do it because you don't and they don't know what the other likes. That's why sex is better in a relationship. If you just had one night stands all the time you're just getting average pleasure! This will sound old fashioned, but the above is the very reason that you should get to know someone if you really like them. Go for a few meals etc., don't even have to kiss - just makes it all the more intense after 3/4 weeks when that special moment happens. ONS are crap, just a way of dumping your muck. no better than having a wank - except you may have to deal with emotional baggage!
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Post by Mrs H on Oct 23, 2007 12:17:57 GMT -1
Sex can't be amazing the first time you do it because you don't and they don't know what the other likes. That's why sex is better in a relationship. If you just had one night stands all the time you're just getting average pleasure! This will sound old fashioned, but the above is the very reason that you should get to know someone if you really like them. Go for a few meals etc., don't even have to kiss - just makes it all the more intense after 3/4 weeks when that special moment happens. ONS are crap, just a way of dumping your muck. no better than having a wank - except you may have to deal with emotional baggage! The art of wining and dining and romance
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Post by jh1980 on Oct 23, 2007 12:19:12 GMT -1
Sex can't be amazing the first time you do it because you don't and they don't know what the other likes. That's why sex is better in a relationship. If you just had one night stands all the time you're just getting average pleasure! Hallelujah thanks Laura thought for a moment maybe I was deluded...
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Post by unkownperson on Oct 23, 2007 12:19:37 GMT -1
Sex can't be amazing the first time you do it because you don't and they don't know what the other likes. That's why sex is better in a relationship. If you just had one night stands all the time you're just getting average pleasure! This will sound old fashioned, but the above is the very reason that you should get to know someone if you really like them. Go for a few meals etc., don't even have to kiss - just makes it all the more intense after 3/4 weeks when that special moment happens. ONS are crap, just a way of dumping your muck. no better than having a wank - except you may have to deal with emotional baggage! Like sex with freinds with special pivliges is just the same and its not good for ya as i know ive done it a long time ago...
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Post by HURLOCK on Oct 23, 2007 12:21:10 GMT -1
Hallelujah thanks Laura thought for a moment maybe I was deluded... it's about the meeting of minds, furthermore women seem to be much more demanding these days
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Post by jh1980 on Oct 23, 2007 12:23:27 GMT -1
The art of wining and dining and romance Goes without saying. Or maybe it doesn't, I admit I've grown confused as to how closely my ideas tally with the rest of the world on these matters!
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Post by Mrs H on Oct 23, 2007 12:24:27 GMT -1
The art of wining and dining and romance Goes without saying. Or maybe it doesn't, I admit I've grown confused as to how closely my ideas tally with the rest of the world on these matters! In what way?
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Post by jh1980 on Oct 23, 2007 12:29:57 GMT -1
I suppose I do feel that much of British society seems to function in the way that Hurls mentioned above. And one then complies, or stands aside. I've noted male friends of mine gradually relaxing their code of conduct (if you will) - and of course, noted my own halo slipping just because something is better than nothing. Oh I dunno, I hardly know what I'm trying to say now.
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Post by Mrs H on Oct 23, 2007 12:34:18 GMT -1
I suppose I do feel that much of British society seems to function in the way that Hurls mentioned above. And one then complies, or stands aside. I've noted male friends of mine gradually relaxing their code of conduct (if you will) - and of course, noted my own halo slipping just because something is better than nothing. Oh I dunno, I hardly know what I'm trying to say now. I'm not sure I understand.
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Post by jh1980 on Oct 23, 2007 12:42:12 GMT -1
I'm not sure I understand. My eloquence deserts me... It's hard to say without implying judgement, but I have often thought that the nature of many relationships (too grand a word) now seem to be "shag first, ask questions later" We meanwhile go along with what we increasingly perceive to be the expectations, and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy that people leap onto each other's bodies before they leap into each other's minds. Meanwhile I still want to do the wine and dine thing, but it becomes expected that the evening will draw to a close with you jumping each other... well can't complain, the libido is there, but it doesn't always "feel right" - though that must be the most female way I could have put it!
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Post by Mrs H on Oct 23, 2007 12:46:13 GMT -1
I'm not sure I understand. My eloquence deserts me... It's hard to say without implying judgement, but I have often thought that the nature of many relationships (too grand a word) now seem to be "shag first, ask questions later" We meanwhile go along with what we increasingly perceive to be the expectations, and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy that people leap onto each other's bodies before they leap into each other's minds. Meanwhile I still want to do the wine and dine thing, but it becomes expected that the evening will draw to a close with you jumping each other... well can't complain, the libido is there, but it doesn't always "feel right" - though that must be the most female way I could have put it! Well maybe the internet is the way to go then JUles. Find someone you like and connect with and then jump their bones later down the line !
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