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Post by jh1980 on Oct 23, 2007 12:52:15 GMT -1
Well maybe the internet is the way to go then Jules. Find someone you like and connect with and then jump their bones later down the line ! Ye-es. You know how things have gone in the past though via that route. Probably chasing the wrong people though... Meh, I shouldn't talk about these things publicly. Not on a football MB anyway, I sound like a wet blanket...
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Post by Mrs H on Oct 23, 2007 12:54:44 GMT -1
Well maybe the internet is the way to go then Jules. Find someone you like and connect with and then jump their bones later down the line ! Ye-es. You know how things have gone in the past though via that route. Probably chasing the wrong people though... Meh, I shouldn't talk about these things publicly. Not on a football MB anyway, I sound like a wet blanket... And that's why women aren't attracted to you, sorry to be blunt. Women need a man that doesn't put himself down. If you don't like yourself how do expect a woman to?
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Post by HURLOCK on Oct 23, 2007 12:54:54 GMT -1
My eloquence deserts me... It's hard to say without implying judgement, but I have often thought that the nature of many relationships (too grand a word) now seem to be "shag first, ask questions later" You see Jules this mantle does not work, because there is no sense of wanting no desire etc., have you ever stayed with someone after an ONS. I certainly have not as I don't respect the person! You don't even have to wine and dine, go to the cinema, have a drink etc., just pan it out and then have the meal. It's worth the wait because all the pain is avoided! I may sound patronising but it works fella, and having met you it's obvious that you have the qualities that women are looking for! Just find the right one and you will
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Post by HURLOCK on Oct 23, 2007 13:00:41 GMT -1
And that's why women aren't attracted to you, sorry to be blunt. Women need a man that doesn't put himself down. If you don't like yourself how do expect a woman to? It's almost preditory how women can smell desperation (I'm talking abou my own expiriences here) they find it off putting. What makes this worst is when your with someone, you get the attention you craved because your not trying! Confidence is a big factor
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Post by jh1980 on Oct 23, 2007 13:03:31 GMT -1
And that's why women aren't attracted to you, sorry to be blunt. Women need a man that doesn't put himself down. If you don't like yourself how do expect a woman to? Ouch, yeah that is a bit blunt! I'm just self-aware when I'm being "awfully sensitive" - you'll find me caught in two minds. I like myself damn well enough deep inside but every setback makes me like myself less, you can call that weak if you like, but there it is. Don't judge without knowing the full story. (Okay that was a bit more fiery but hey, I'm stung)
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Post by jh1980 on Oct 23, 2007 13:08:03 GMT -1
You see Jules this mantle does not work, because there is no sense of wanting no desire etc., have you ever stayed with someone after an ONS. I certainly have not as I don't respect the person! You don't even have to wine and dine, go to the cinema, have a drink etc., just pan it out and then have the meal. It's worth the wait because all the pain is avoided! Having met you it's obvious that you have the qualities that women are looking for! Just find the right one and you will Hurls you'll find I respect most people, and certainly ones I have any intentions towards! I'm not as clueless as you seem to think Yeah, cheers buddy those words are kind. I don't meet many suitable women - too damn lazy atm maybe.
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Post by Mrs H on Oct 23, 2007 13:10:25 GMT -1
And that's why women aren't attracted to you, sorry to be blunt. Women need a man that doesn't put himself down. If you don't like yourself how do expect a woman to? Ouch, yeah that is a bit blunt! I'm just self-aware when I'm being "awfully sensitive" - you'll find me caught in two minds. I like myself damn well enough deep inside but every setback makes me like myself less, you can call that weak if you like, but there it is. Don't judge without knowing the full story. (Okay that was a bit more fiery but hey, I'm stung) It wasn't judgement Jules it was more an observation. There needs to be a healthy balance of sensitivity and confidence is all I'm saying. Didn't mean to hurt
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Post by Travis on Oct 23, 2007 13:13:18 GMT -1
Bloody hell, it's all going a bit 'Trisha' on here!! Hello daytime types.
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Post by HURLOCK on Oct 23, 2007 13:14:07 GMT -1
Hurls you'll find I respect most people, and certainly ones I have any intentions towards! I'm not as clueless as you seem to think Yeah, cheers buddy those words are kind. I don't meet many suitable women - too damn lazy atm maybe. Jules myself and H, are trying to be objective and helpful. We know you're not clueless. It's just sometimes the approach needs to be slightly different - thats all. Job interview technique etc., Jules it's obvious that you want to be with woman mate, so just take it on board and then the the opurtniy presents itself - go for it. It'll happen when you least expect it
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Post by HURLOCK on Oct 23, 2007 13:15:14 GMT -1
Bloody hell, it's all going a bit 'Trisha' on here!! Hello daytime types. You always lower the tone with the mention of such things ;D How do fella
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Post by jh1980 on Oct 23, 2007 13:16:16 GMT -1
It wasn't judgement Jules it was more an observation. There needs to be a healthy balance of sensitivity and confidence is all I'm saying. Didn't mean to hurt I don't know how I come across on here, but like most other people in the world, I'm an imperfect blend of various contradictions, you know, sometimes extrovert, sometimes introverted, sometimes confident, sometimes self-deprecating, sometimes idealistic, sometimes cynical, etcetera, etcetera. It's alright *hug* If you think about it though, it wouldn't help an underconfident person to say "you're not confident enough" - they'd just retreat further inside their shell.
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Post by unkownperson on Oct 23, 2007 13:16:58 GMT -1
Trav! ;d
and Jules just be confident being cocky, Flirt and youll be fine and dont look for it either and it will happen.. Did to me and im a ugly fooker
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Post by ITFC Dudette6 on Oct 23, 2007 13:19:24 GMT -1
Well Alex is going to have a lovely surprise when he reads all of this!
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Post by jh1980 on Oct 23, 2007 13:20:14 GMT -1
Jules myself and H, are trying to be objective and helpful. We know you're not clueless. It's just sometimes the approach needs to be slightly different - thats all. Job interview technique etc., Jules it's obvious that you want to be with woman mate, so just take it on board and then the the opurtniy presents itself - go for it. It'll happen when you least expect it I appreciate that, I think. Meh just comes across that way sometimes, I'm not great at being advised! No shit, my Holmes-esque friend! Yeah alright, but spare me the platitudes like that last one! I have plenty of my own, and the clichés do grate fella, no offence!
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Post by Mrs H on Oct 23, 2007 13:21:11 GMT -1
It wasn't judgement Jules it was more an observation. There needs to be a healthy balance of sensitivity and confidence is all I'm saying. Didn't mean to hurt I don't know how I come across on here, but like most other people in the world, I'm an imperfect blend of various contradictions, you know, sometimes extrovert, sometimes introverted, sometimes confident, sometimes self-deprecating, sometimes idealistic, sometimes cynical, etcetera, etcetera. It's alright *hug* If you think about it though, it wouldn't help an underconfident person to say "you're not confident enough" - they'd just retreat further inside their shell.Then I shall cease to talk about it at all Jules
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Post by Travis on Oct 23, 2007 13:22:01 GMT -1
Bloody hell, it's all going a bit 'Trisha' on here!! Hello daytime types. You always lower the tone with the mention of such things ;D How do fella Well I was going to go with Jeremy Kyle , but considering the subject matter I thought I'd use a little more reverence. Afternoon Hurls. Oh, and encouraging words to hear from a self-confessed ugly fucker, mate!! ;D
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Post by jh1980 on Oct 23, 2007 13:22:35 GMT -1
Jules just be confident being cocky, Flirt and youll be fine and dont look for it either and it will happen.. Did to me and im a ugly fooker Erm yeah cheers Tom! So why do I now feel like I'm in a cage being poked at with scientific instruments?! I'm okay, really, I don't know what I said which produced some idea I need help!
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Post by Travis on Oct 23, 2007 13:27:19 GMT -1
Jules just be confident being cocky, Flirt and youll be fine and dont look for it either and it will happen.. Did to me and im a ugly fooker Erm yeah cheers Tom! So why do I now feel like I'm in a cage being poked at with scientific instruments?! I'm okay, really, I don't know what I said which produced some idea I need help! It'd be a heck of a concept for your imminent post party mate!!
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Post by jh1980 on Oct 23, 2007 13:28:05 GMT -1
Then I shall cease to talk about it at all Jules I don't mind talking about it though, if I did I wouldn't raise it here! You may have a point about modifying said blend of traits... and of course, thanks for caring eh?
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Post by unkownperson on Oct 23, 2007 13:28:11 GMT -1
Jules just be confident being cocky, Flirt and youll be fine and dont look for it either and it will happen.. Did to me and im a ugly fooker Erm yeah cheers Tom! So why do I now feel like I'm in a cage being poked at with scientific instruments?! I'm okay, really, I don't know what I said which produced some idea I need help! Bud im sorry dident mean for it to sound like that **man hug** and i know you dont need help
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