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Post by Dr LuKas on Nov 12, 2007 14:51:22 GMT -1
Late to answer and you guys don't know me much but if I can be so bold..... GT....This bloke is not a true friend. He's a parasite preying on your kind nature to the extent that he knows how to make you feel guilty when you can offer him no more. The easiest thing would be to tell him to "poke off" but you can't cos you are such a good bloke and it's not in your nature as you are one of life's genuine caring people..a rare breed. Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind... to be a true friend to him he needs you to say no or he won't ever try to get himself back on the straight and narrow Everyone else is absolutely correct. Your auntie needs you and you deserve to give your girlfriend as much attention and love as you can. This is not being selfish it's the right thing to do Wish I had a mate like you ! Funk off would be nicer. Right I'm out of here, funk off everyone! ;D
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Post by T C on Nov 12, 2007 15:00:52 GMT -1
Thanks for the kind words terry You're worth it mate..Genuine people always are
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Post by officergroyman on Nov 12, 2007 15:13:06 GMT -1
I am not a great believer in bringing lots of personal problems to the forum, though I would never slate someone for doing so and I feel bad for doing this but I need some advice. A good friend of mine is in trouble but I can’t help him anymore. He hasn’t worked in years and never has any cash. A few years ago when I was living at home I lent him a considerable amount of money to see him out of trouble – I have never seen a penny of it back. Since I moved back I have been leaned on to lend him the odd tenner for nights out which I have sometimes got back when he got his benefit, and sometimes haven’t. Now he is in trouble with the benefit people and is completely broke and keeps asking me for money for electricity and suchlike, he has dragged me into town on a few Sundays to do so (it costs me 3 quid on the bus return as I live out in the ‘sticks’. Always with the promise of giving it back ‘the next week.’ This weekend he has got his mother onto me to find out where I am and apparently turned up in town looking for me the other night. I rang him on Sunday and he said he needed money for electricity, pet food and a new sick note because he had lost the last one. I estimate this would have cost me 25 quid. I said no because I simply can’t keep doing it. I have a lovely new girlfriend to spend time and money with, a new flat on the way and may need to visit my Aunty in the South who is hospital with cancer. I couldn’t sleep last night, I was pacing up and down in tears and now it’s affecting my work – my girlfriend is worried about me to boot and we have only been seeing each other for a matter of weeks. Am I being a C*nt or have I done all I can? Can anyone recommend a way for him to get help, it seems his family don’t care and would rather I dug into my own pockets to help him. I’m not looking for sympathy, just some friendly advice because I don’t know how much more of this I can stomach, I’ve never turned my back on a friend. I have no idea if this has already been said; however, I'll give you my two-bits on the subject anyway. Sounds like your enabling your firend to be a loser by constantly bailing him out of his problematic situations. I'm all for being a good friend; however, at some point being a good friend means inflicting some tough love and showing your buddy that your unwilling to put up with his leachery anymore.
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Post by HURLOCK on Nov 12, 2007 15:15:40 GMT -1
I have no idea if this has already been said; however, I'll give you my two-bits on the subject anyway. Sounds like your enabling your firend to be a loser by constantly bailing him out of his problematic situations. I'm all for being a good friend; however, at some point being a good friend means inflicting some tough love and showing your buddy that your unwilling to put up with his leachery anymore. OG for congress
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Post by Neko Bazu on Nov 12, 2007 15:20:44 GMT -1
I have no idea if this has already been said; however, I'll give you my two-bits on the subject anyway. Sounds like your enabling your firend to be a loser by constantly bailing him out of his problematic situations. I'm all for being a good friend; however, at some point being a good friend means inflicting some tough love and showing your buddy that your unwilling to put up with his leachery anymore. OG for congress Soon see a change in obscenity laws ;D
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Post by officergroyman on Nov 12, 2007 16:10:25 GMT -1
Soon see a change in obscenity laws ;D Agreed, the Politically Correct bastards & bastardess' would get a good shot in the arm if I were voted in.
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Post by gt on Nov 13, 2007 11:36:58 GMT -1
Have thought long and hard about this and asked for a favour off a mate who might, just might be able to get him a job. Going to get some cheap pet food because whatever he has done I can’t bear the thought of the animals going without (he shouldn’t keep them if he can’t support them but that’s another matter). No money asides from that though.
If he makes me look bad I will have to have serious thoughts about things
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Post by Mrs H on Nov 13, 2007 12:09:23 GMT -1
Have thought long and hard about this and asked for a favour off a mate who might, just might be able to get him a job. Going to get some cheap pet food because whatever he has done I can’t bear the thought of the animals going without (he shouldn’t keep them if he can’t support them but that’s another matter). No money asides from that though. If he makes me look bad I will have to have serious thoughts about things Seems fair enough to me. If he's just going to piss money up against a wall then he should be left to his own devices.
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Post by mortontheblade on Nov 13, 2007 13:14:44 GMT -1
tis lies, tom, your wit knows no end.... .... oh AND GIVE ME THE MONEY!!
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Post by gt on Nov 13, 2007 13:16:18 GMT -1
Sorry mate you’ve lost me on the first part?
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Post by mortontheblade on Nov 13, 2007 13:17:33 GMT -1
Re: At my wits end
I SAID!! YA WIT!! KNOWS!! NO!! END!!!
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Post by mortontheblade on Nov 13, 2007 13:17:49 GMT -1
like comic wit....
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Post by mortontheblade on Nov 13, 2007 13:18:04 GMT -1
ah forget it! *storms off*
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Post by gt on Nov 13, 2007 13:22:54 GMT -1
Oooooooh I see ;D
Too quick for me today mate
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Post by mortontheblade on Nov 13, 2007 13:27:10 GMT -1
"I'm so fast that last night I turned off the light switch in my hotel room and was in bed before the room was dark."
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