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Post by officergroyman on Nov 2, 2007 14:33:45 GMT -1
YES, I feel like such a complete a-hole frikken jerk bastard. she won't talk to me - lets just say she received something confirming my inappropriate behavior.
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Post by officergroyman on Nov 2, 2007 14:36:32 GMT -1
true - allright without getting into alot of detail I was unfaithful to my finance' & I think I may have jeporadized my upcoming nuptials. Tbh i think she will need time. Speaking from seeing 2 people cheating on my Mum she took it really bad but she took both of them back gave them one more time. She took my Dad back but that didn't work out for other reasons and they brke up and this other guy cheated on my Mum but she is willing to take him back but at first she hurt alot and it took her a while to find it in to forgive him and say he deserves another chance, but they aren't back together but if the oppourtunity come to take him back she would I hope things work out, but it doesn't look good right now. I'm a total idiot and probably desere to be single for the rest of my life. I am still totally in love with my girl, but that doesn't seem to matter at the moment.
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Post by CmonYouSpurs on Nov 2, 2007 14:36:46 GMT -1
Your going to have to give her all the time she needs m8. Just leave her alone for a while and dont keep calling her. Any excuses you have aren't going to matter so dont even try, it will make things worse.
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Post by Katiekins on Nov 2, 2007 14:38:41 GMT -1
Tbh i think she will need time. Speaking from seeing 2 people cheating on my Mum she took it really bad but she took both of them back gave them one more time. She took my Dad back but that didn't work out for other reasons and they brke up and this other guy cheated on my Mum but she is willing to take him back but at first she hurt alot and it took her a while to find it in to forgive him and say he deserves another chance, but they aren't back together but if the oppourtunity come to take him back she would I hope things work out, but it doesn't look good right now. I'm a total idiot and probably desere to be single for the rest of my life. I am still totally in love with my girl, but that doesn't seem to matter at the moment. She probably jsut needs time to think things through but when she talks you need to talk to her explaining things and that you won't do it again and hope shecan forget it and trust you again but it may take a while. You just need to prove how much you love her. Hope things work out
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Post by jh1980 on Nov 2, 2007 14:41:58 GMT -1
I'm a total idiot and probably desere to be single for the rest of my life. I am still totally in love with my girl, but that doesn't seem to matter at the moment. I sympathise dude, but y'know... why'd you do it? Opportunity?!
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Post by officergroyman on Nov 2, 2007 14:43:55 GMT -1
Your going to have to give her all the time she needs m8. Just leave her alone for a while and dont keep calling her. Any excuses you have aren't going to matter so dont even try, it will make things worse. yeah, i've got no excuses - I'm an idiot!!!
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Post by officergroyman on Nov 2, 2007 14:47:30 GMT -1
I hope things work out, but it doesn't look good right now. I'm a total idiot and probably desere to be single for the rest of my life. I am still totally in love with my girl, but that doesn't seem to matter at the moment. She probably jsut needs time to think things through but when she talks you need to talk to her explaining things and that you won't do it again and hope shecan forget it and trust you again but it may take a while. You just need to prove how much you love her. Hope things work out I hoep things work out as well & if I could take it back I would. Seriously though would you take me back - I don't know if a woman would seriously be able to trust someone after something liek this. I just have a really bad feeling that I screwed myself BIG time.
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Post by officergroyman on Nov 2, 2007 14:51:21 GMT -1
I'm a total idiot and probably desere to be single for the rest of my life. I am still totally in love with my girl, but that doesn't seem to matter at the moment. I sympathise dude, but y'know... why'd you do it? Opportunity?! I really don't want to make excuses........ let's just say that the girl involved and me had crossed paths recently. Shen made herself available to me, I wasn't looking for her. When the opportunity presented itself i was a bit inebriated and wasn't using my full brain. I just re-read this and it sounds an awful lot like I'm making up excuses - damnit i'm an idiot, such a giant toolbox.
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Post by urrzzzzzzzzzz on Nov 2, 2007 14:53:17 GMT -1
Truth is if you're sorry you really need to show it. It's entirely in her hands, and if you still love her and are really sorry you should be willing to do anything she asks to keep it alive. If she needs time let her have, you can't avoid speaking to someone forever. And once she gives you the chance, you just have it explain it as it is. Submission is the way forward.
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Post by urrzzzzzzzzzz on Nov 2, 2007 14:54:32 GMT -1
Forgot to say, if she can see all that in you and how sorry you are, she may be able to gain the trust that it won't happen again.
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Post by jh1980 on Nov 2, 2007 14:58:19 GMT -1
I really don't want to make excuses........ let's just say that the girl involved and me had crossed paths recently. Shen made herself available to me, I wasn't looking for her. When the opportunity presented itself i was a bit inebriated and wasn't using my full brain. It's easily done, I'm told. I hope you don't have to pay for a moment of madness, make sure your girl knows how lucky you feel if she does take you back.
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Post by officergroyman on Nov 2, 2007 15:01:08 GMT -1
Forgot to say, if she can see all that in you and how sorry you are, she may be able to gain the trust that it won't happen again. hope so. this may sound pretty lame but I'm going to miss the intimacy, I'm used to being intimate with my woman on a nightly basis, hows that going to work out for me, Just being honest.
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Post by officergroyman on Nov 2, 2007 15:02:45 GMT -1
I really don't want to make excuses........ let's just say that the girl involved and me had crossed paths recently. Shen made herself available to me, I wasn't looking for her. When the opportunity presented itself i was a bit inebriated and wasn't using my full brain. It's easily done, I'm told. I hope you don't have to pay for a moment of madness, make sure your girl knows how lucky you feel if she does take you back. I like that idea, although i think I might use the term "fortunate" rather than "lucky" as she doesn't believe in luck.
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Post by officergroyman on Nov 2, 2007 15:06:39 GMT -1
Well thanks for the advice everyone. I really can't get motivate to do any work today, so I'm taking a personal day to go sort things out in my own head. take a long drive, clear my brain - see you all back here next week. OG OUT:
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Post by jh1980 on Nov 2, 2007 15:06:40 GMT -1
It's easily done, I'm told. I hope you don't have to pay for a moment of madness, make sure your girl knows how lucky you feel if she does take you back. I like that idea, although i think I might use the term "fortunate" rather than "lucky" as she doesn't believe in luck. Yeah, I think it has to be the truth, from what you say about her. I could easily be a harsher judge of what you've done btw, but I don't like to kick a brother when he's down
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Post by HURLOCK on Nov 2, 2007 15:11:45 GMT -1
Look fella, just leave her alone and let her call you.
I'd simply send her a bunch of flowers saying how much you love her.
You do have to ask yourself why you did this, and if she's the woman for you!
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Post by C@V on Nov 2, 2007 15:27:55 GMT -1
YES, I feel like such a complete a-hole frikken jerk bastard. she won't talk to me - lets just say she received something confirming my inappropriate behavior. Was is a one night stand or an affair?
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Post by HURLOCK on Nov 2, 2007 15:29:28 GMT -1
Was is a one night stand or an affair? Seriously mate, is that really going to make the slightest bit of dofference in Mrs OG's eyes
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Post by C@V on Nov 2, 2007 15:34:40 GMT -1
Was is a one night stand or an affair? Seriously mate, is that really going to make the slightest bit of dofference in Mrs OG's eyes Very much so. If it was a drunken mistake compared to a premeditated relationship!
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Post by thales on Nov 2, 2007 15:38:08 GMT -1
evening lost souls!
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