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Post by officergroyman on Aug 23, 2007 17:11:01 GMT -1
........ for those of you who may be or will soon be going through a break-up, it'll be okay so move on. Lovelorns’ level of distraught is ‘dramatically overstated,’ researcher says Chicago - Despite the laments of pining pop stars and sad sack poets, U.S. researchers now think breaking up may not be so hard to do. “We underestimate our ability to survive heartbreak,” said Eli Finkel, an assistant professor of psychology at Northwestern University, whose study appears online in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology. Finkel and colleague Paul Eastwick studied young lovers — especially those who profess ardent affection — to see if their predictions of devastation matched their actual angst when that love was lost. “On average, people overestimate how distressed they will be following a breakup,” Finkel said in a telephone interview. The nine-month study involved college students who had been dating at least two months who filled out questionnaires every two weeks. They gathered data from 26 people — 10 women and 16 men — who broke up with their partners during the first six months of the study. The participants’ forecasts of distress two weeks before the breakup were compared to their actual experience as recorded over four different periods of time. Not surprisingly, they found the more people were in love, the harder they took the breakup. “People who are more in love really are a little more upset after a breakup, but their perceptions about how distraught they will be are dramatically overstated when compared to reality,” Finkel said. “At the end of the day it, it is just less bad than you thought.”
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Post by Neko Bazu on Aug 23, 2007 17:39:15 GMT -1
Feh - in my case, it was much worse than I ever imagined it'd be. Still got over it and everything, and I was pretty sure even at the time that I would, but that didn't make it any easier at the time Their method for the test was a load of bollocks anyway
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Post by GresleyRam©®™ on Aug 23, 2007 17:57:44 GMT -1
Turned out to be the best thing that happened to me when my ex fucked off with my best mate - i then met Mrs G and all is now well! didnt feel like it at the time though!
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Post by Dr LuKas on Aug 23, 2007 19:03:00 GMT -1
And when you're feeling bad, Dr LuKas has the perfect cure for you. Funk, funk and funking.
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Post by officergroyman on Aug 23, 2007 21:43:21 GMT -1
Feh - in my case, it was much worse than I ever imagined it'd be. Still got over it and everything, and I was pretty sure even at the time that I would, but that didn't make it any easier at the time Their method for the test was a load of bollocks anyway dude you gotta stop picking those psycho bitches!!!!
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