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Post by thales on Oct 10, 2007 11:42:09 GMT -1
what happens if we both like the same one  Knife fight ........ to the death!! With them both screaming 'one of me has to go' ......... we'll all come and watch, it'll be fun ....... I'll bring popcorn!! the first 606 split personnalities fight night was a great success....  |
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Post by HURLOCK on Oct 10, 2007 11:46:44 GMT -1
Have you checked under the bed, she might be mailing because in her rush she forgot her calvin klein knickers. Or worst still engagement ring on the bedside table ;D Have you been cheated on in the past Hurls? Not that I know of Laura, still women can be very deceitful. I have been the third party - and that opens your eyes to people capabilities. I don't mean to generalize |
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Post by Mrs H on Oct 10, 2007 11:49:06 GMT -1
Have you been cheated on in the past Hurls? Not that I know of Laura, still women can be very deceitful. I have been the third party - and that opens your eyes to people capabilities. I don't mean to generalize I don't think that's just the capabilities of women and if you're the 'third' party then your own conduct is just as bad because you know what the situation is. You do seem to pigeonhole women a lot. |
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Post by jh1980 on Oct 10, 2007 11:53:30 GMT -1
I don't think that's just the capabilities of women and if you're the 'third' party then your own conduct is just as bad because you know what the situation is. You do seem to pigeonhole women a lot. I still like to think that it depends on the situation... but only cos I've sinned too, Father Laura! (  think that works?!) Suspicious minds are probably as rife as ever, if not more so, in the modern era (after all mobile phones, internet etc make it easier to arrange illicit liasons, don't they?) |
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Post by HURLOCK on Oct 10, 2007 11:54:53 GMT -1
Not that I know of Laura, still women can be very deceitful. I have been the third party - and that opens your eyes to people capabilities. I don't mean to generalize I don't think that's just the capabilities of women and if you're the 'third' party then your own conduct is just as bad because you know what the situation is. You do seem to pigeonhole women a lot. Well I could be very conceited and say I was providing a service, the much need orgasm and attention. They came to me, so there was no force on my part. Furthermore I made it quite plain that I wasn't interested in anything more than sex. The 'don't arrive at my door with you bags line' But you're right in a way, I was equaly guilty and wouldn't like it done to me. They where my younger years and I maintain that it helps me in my judgement. I don't think your right there, I give eberyone a chance. I may type things that don't come accross well as they're in the main tongue in cheek! |
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Post by Mrs H on Oct 10, 2007 11:55:28 GMT -1
I don't think that's just the capabilities of women and if you're the 'third' party then your own conduct is just as bad because you know what the situation is. You do seem to pigeonhole women a lot. I still like to think that it depends on the situation... but only cos I've sinned too, Father Laura! ( think that works?!) Suspicious minds are probably as rife as ever, if not more so, in the modern era (after all mobile phones, internet etc make it easier to arrange illicit liasons, don't they?) I agree but if you're always suspcious of people's motives then it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy because you push people down that route. |
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Post by jh1980 on Oct 10, 2007 11:59:08 GMT -1
I agree but if you're always suspcious of people's motives then it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy because you push people down that route. Obviously a lack of trust is not to be encouraged. But it strikes me as perverse that it should be a self-fulfilling prophecy. If someone I was with didn't trust me (fortunately hasn't been a problem) then I wouldn't think "oh well I'd better prove I can't be trusted" - I'd be hurt, but if I valued them I'd try to be reassuring! Am I wrong?!  |
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Post by addicted2venos on Oct 10, 2007 12:02:58 GMT -1
I agree but if you're always suspcious of people's motives then it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy because you push people down that route. Obviously a lack of trust is not to be encouraged. But it strikes me as perverse that it should be a self-fulfilling prophecy. If someone I was with didn't trust me (fortunately hasn't been a problem) then I wouldn't think "oh well I'd better prove I can't be trusted" - I'd be hurt, but if I valued them I'd try to be reassuring! Am I wrong?! It depends entirely of the level of mania involved in the lack of trust. If you've done nothing wrong and someone is screaming, shouting, throwing things and attacking you ......... then you might just look for an easy out!! |
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Post by Mrs H on Oct 10, 2007 12:05:31 GMT -1
I agree but if you're always suspcious of people's motives then it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy because you push people down that route. Obviously a lack of trust is not to be encouraged. But it strikes me as perverse that it should be a self-fulfilling prophecy. If someone I was with didn't trust me (fortunately hasn't been a problem) then I wouldn't think "oh well I'd better prove I can't be trusted" - I'd be hurt, but if I valued them I'd try to be reassuring! Am I wrong?! It does depend on the sort of person you are. If you have that capability within you but have never acted on it and then your partner accuses you of cheating constantly then I'm sure it's very possible that consciously/unconsciously you might consider looking elsewhere for trust and affection. |
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Post by jh1980 on Oct 10, 2007 12:05:59 GMT -1
It depends entirely of the level of mania involved in the lack of trust. If you've done nothing wrong and someone is screaming, shouting, throwing things and attacking you ......... then you might just look for an easy out!! yes, I wasn't talking about suffering at the hands of a psychotic abuser... though I suppose it's where one draws the line isn't it...  |
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Post by jh1980 on Oct 10, 2007 12:09:49 GMT -1
It does depend on the sort of person you are. If you have that capability within you but have never acted on it and then your partner accuses you of cheating constantly then I'm sure it's very possible that consciously/unconsciously you might consider looking elsewhere for trust and affection. I wouldn't know about that, I think most people are "capable" - I'd imagine it's more about how different people would deal with their infidelity. This is a right can of worms though, shall we talk about something more cheerful?! |
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Post by HURLOCK on Oct 10, 2007 12:11:19 GMT -1
I'm shocked you behaved in such a manner Jules  |
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Post by fcredblue on Oct 10, 2007 12:18:02 GMT -1
how do ireply to email i got other day, have been ignoring it so far "Do you always have a split personality or is it just when you are around me?" from a female of the species i met a few weeks back for second time... say to her "at least iv got one" ;D |
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Post by thales on Oct 10, 2007 12:43:38 GMT -1
Obviously a lack of trust is not to be encouraged. But it strikes me as perverse that it should be a self-fulfilling prophecy. If someone I was with didn't trust me (fortunately hasn't been a problem) then I wouldn't think "oh well I'd better prove I can't be trusted" - I'd be hurt, but if I valued them I'd try to be reassuring! Am I wrong?! It does depend on the sort of person you are. If you have that capability within you but have never acted on it and then your partner accuses you of cheating constantly then I'm sure it's very possible that consciously/unconsciously you might consider looking elsewhere for trust and affection. don't think it's so much going looking for it, more a getting out of the first situation, so kind of self fufilling for the other person! |
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